I Suddenly Want A Family?

There, I said it. I have suddenly developed maternal instincts and the deep want to get married.

I don’t know what’s wrong with me!  I mean babies are cute and everything, but before where I used to flinch if they cried, now I want to cuddle and soothe them. HELP!


This is not helped by numerous Facebook friends having children and getting married. They’re always posting photos of their newborn babies and I just think they are adorable.

I think this started about a year ago when me and some friends started talking about our ideal weddings… I now have a weddings Pinterest board! 


It’s got even worse since me and my boyfriend ended it (honestly: best break up ever, he’s so sweet) because I realized I needed more than he could give me. I’m not saying I will drop everything to have a relationship and a family, but I wouldn’t say no as fast as I would have a year ago.

I keep thinking about how I always said I would be married by the time I was 25: I’m 20 in three months and I’m still single with no men on my horizon. And what’s worse – I have a career (yes, that’s write – writing is my career and I love it more than people [call a shrink now]).


I won’t give up my career, but do you know how hard it is explaining to people that you want to be a writer, knowing full-well that it will never make me any money?! Now imagine telling a guy that on the first date! Men (as much as they deny this) don’t like career women. I know the guys I know certainly don’t love the idea of a women (particularly me) being more successful than they are, and more so because I haven’t even graduated yet.


Maybe I’m generalizing too much, some guys are absolute sweeties about it but I’m not looking for complete and utter admiration from a partner: I’m looking for some respect.

What’s wrong with me? Is it self-destruction of my career or am I genuinely ready to grow up and find someone to love and grow with?

Have you been through this and could spare some advice? Comment below or Tweet me @melissaholden94


3 thoughts on “I Suddenly Want A Family?

  1. I wouldn’t worry about when things are going to happen. You could meet someone today or tomorrow. Things happen when they are supposed to and you are still young enough for plenty of time.
    The idea of men not liking a career woman, I have to disagree. I like a woman who is clear on what she wants to do, especially something that is really ambitious like writing, acting, directing. Creativity meeting a career interest, that will take a lot of work and yes money would be a long time coming.
    It sounds cliche but all you can do is be you and see what happens. Sometimes the means coming away from the computer to get out and meet people but that is all. The career is important it is not everything. Trust me I have had a version of this advice given to me too.

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